What about success?

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Earlier this month, I sat down and began work on my next book. And while I’m pleased with what’s coming out, the whole process is moving far slower than I’d like, mostly due to my anxiety and procrastination.

That shit’s just crazy.

It’s the kind of stuff authors dream about in a bathtub full of basil-coconut-scented bubbles surrounded by candles. But while the experience has been fantastic, I’ve noticed some psychological fallout that’s come along with it.

Namely, how the fuck do I top this?

Every time I sit down to work on the new book, it’s impossible for me not to compare everything I write to the writing, and this constant comparison petrifies me at times. Especially, when as often happens in first drafts, the book that comes out sucks.

“What if I’m a one-hit wonder?”

“What if that book was a fluke and I’m kind of sad at this?”

“What if my idea for this book is terrible and nobody is going to be excited about it?”

It occurred to me last week that success, as fucking awesome and life-changing as it is, has a weird dark side to it—namely, the more success you achieve, the higher your expectations become (and the higher other people’s expectations for you become), and the more potential you create for failing to meet those expectations.

Expectations matter. Ever hear of that old cheesy equation about happiness?


Happiness = Reality – Expectations


Well, if your expectations for something are ginormous, then guess which direction that equation starts tilting?

Don’t get me wrong; I’m not looking for a pat on the back or a “Go get’em, champ!” here. I’ll power through this insecurity like I have my other dangers in the past. What’s funny/different about this one is that failure does not cause it but a dream-come-true success causing it.

I experienced this with the blog a few years ago as well. Every post that I wrote that became a mega-hit, it raised the bar regarding what I wanted to achieve with the next article. And with those raised expectations came greater pressure, anxiety, and self-doubt.

Back when nobody read this site, I used to pump out 3-4 articles every week, most of which were written in an hour or two. Many weren’t even spell-checked. These days, I spend a full week (or sometimes more) on each article. And even then, some of the pieces feel rushed out or as though I should have put more time and effort into them.

In video games, there’s a concept called “power creep.” It’s when the developer updates a game with newer, more powerful items and abilities to keep players interested. The problem arises when a developer creates so many updates that everything in the game becomes so powerful, that it destroys any sense of challenge in the game, thus causing gamers to lose interest.

There’s something like a “power creep” in creative careers. The more commercial success you experience, the more you have to lose, and because you have more to lose, ironically, the more anxious and neurotic you get about the shit you create. And if you’re anxious and obsessive about the shit you produce, then most of it isn’t going to come out that well.

Now I get why bands lose their shit and break up or start hating each other after they become huge successes. I get why a lot of novelists become formulaic in their work after a few huge creative breakthrough hits. The psychological effects of success, in many ways, run counter to the state of mind required to do good creative work.

When I look at my thoughts and anxieties about the new book, my biggest fear right now is, “What if my book is my peak and I never do anything as good as that ever again?”

This has been fucking with me because the book’s success has been so stratospheric that it’s probable that I’m never going to match it or surpass it with anything else I do.

But this got me thinking about something else: the idea of linear progression in one’s career is an irrational metric for success.

For example:

  • Let’s say I write a blog post next month that is a huge success and it gets 1 million readers and 1,000 people email me saying it changed their lives.
  • Now, let’s say the month after that, I write another post that only gets 100,000 readers and 100 people email me saying it changed their lives.
  • Does the success of the first post negate or lessen the success of the second one?

In the case of creative work—writing, music, etc.—I think the answer is obvious: not. Original work is useful as long as it’s connecting with some people in some way. The number of people doesn’t necessarily determine how worthwhile it is.

When we start out our careers, everything is linear. As an artist, you start out with a few fans/followers. Then you have a few dozen. Then a few hundred. Then thousands and so on.

The progression is linear.

But just because the progress is linear early on, we incorrectly assume that progress will continue to be linear forever.

At some point, there will be a divergence between commercial success/popularity and artistic progression. One will fall off, and the other will keep going. And it’s important to remember that this is a regular part of any creative career, and perhaps it’s even part of any current job as well.

Also relevant: my publisher has been pressuring me to “rip off” my work for the next book. They want me to just create a spin-off of  — they even want me to keep the title for the most part, like Chicken Soup for the Soul for fuckfaces.

They believe that I can just keep riding its success for another few years by writing a second book that’s more or less exactly like the first. And because they’re a big corporation that requires profits and sales and all that shit, they think this is a very good idea.

But as an artist, I do not. I’ve been resisting this pressure, for a few reasons. For one, I don’t want to be married to one idea I had just because it ended up making the most money. Other ideas are great and important that I’d like to explore, even if it means giving up some financial success or fame.

Secondly, I find that I only create good work when I am sufficiently challenged and excited by that work. Doing an eBook spin-off is not only not exciting to me, but I don’t think it would be challenging. I’d be able to “mail it in” so to speak—just shit out another 50,000 words similar what I already wrote in the first book—but I believe that would come across in the writing and readers would sense it. They would sense that I am half-assed it for the sake of a big paycheck. And as a result, the book would have a fraction of the impact that it could have.

Posts like this are meant as journal entries—or more accurately, what a “personal blog” should be. I plan on sharing more about the writing process of the next book over the coming year. And in time, I’ll likely share real info or ideas from the new book here just for members. Hopefully, you all find it interesting. Check out here:  http://lifepathstrategy.com/bestsellers/

Also, waiting for some feedback from you.  Thank you!

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