Have you ever been in a toxic relationship? Do you have the courage to admit that you are or you have been in this unpleasant situation?
What is a toxic relationship?
By definition, a toxic relationship is a relationship in which the behavior of one of the partners is extremely harmful to the well-being of the other partner involved. A toxic relationship is dysfunctional, it is characterized by dominance, control, insecurity and self-centeredness.
A toxic relationship can ruin one’s life.
10 signs that you are in a toxic relationship and it’s ruining your life
- Extreme jealousy and blame game
We are all humans and at some point in our life we felt jealousy, but extreme jealousy is never a healthy thing. If you are in a relationship and you are experiencing this, there is no trust and to be honest, you have nothing worth holding on to.
- Negative energy
If you feel uncomfortable or tense around your partner, you may be reacting to the negative energy surrounding the two of you. Negativity can drain you physically and emotionally.
- Passive aggression
If you keep to yourself the fact that you don’t stand some things your partner is doing, you are doing a mistake. Your attitude will be influenced by your internal feelings and you’ll quickly lose the bond on which the relationship was built in the first place.
- Criticism and contempt
Arguing, fighting and yelling won’t get you anywhere. It is natural to get upset but if the normal communication is missing, nothing will be solved.
- Avoiding each other
You should be able to tolerate your partner’s presence and vice versa. If you can’t be around each other, then you really have to call it to an end.
- Not being yourself
In a healthy relationship, you have to be able to be yourself. It is true people change over time, but you both should be going in the same direction. In a relationship, if you don’t recognize yourself anymore, it’s time to leave.
If physical or emotional violence is occurring you have to get out as soon as possible. Violence is not acceptable under any circumstances.
- Not being able to see the future
Memories are never enough to sustain a relationship. You should be able to see a common bright future for you and your partner. If this is missing, the relationship is not healthy and you should end it.
- Not being able to do anything right
If the other partner is annoyed and nervous about everything you do, don’t start to think you are not doing anything right. Probably you are not the problem, but the relationship itself is.
- Not being happy anymore
We know, you two used to be happy. But if you aren’t anymore you don’t need to justify this feeling. Is not realistic to think that you have to be happy every single moment but in the end a relationship is all about happiness.
If you don’t have that is it really worth it?
10 ways to end a toxic relationship
- Step out of denial. Be honest with yourself.
- Keep a log of emotions
- Identify the perks
- Fill the hole
- Keep your real friends close
- Write notes to yourself
- Establish goals and enjoy the feeling of achievement
- Forget about shame. There is no need to feel it.
- Think about your strengths
- Allow yourself some rest and solitude
If you are in a toxic relationship, I hope you’ll give the courage to walk away. Remember you have real friends and loved ones, that you are appreciated and you don’t deserve to stay with someone who makes you feel insecure and insignificant. Stop exposing yourself to toxic people!
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